Staffer discusses inevitability, acceptance of change

Maddie Jewett, Features Editor

We’ve all heard it before: “When one door closes, another opens.”
I personally have an extremely difficult time accepting change.
Whether it be in a friend, an event or any other aspect of life, I honestly hate change.
I once read a quote by Carlos Banks that said, “I think part of the reason why we hold on to something so tightly is because we fear something so great won’t happen twice.”
This basically sums up my vast array of feelings about change into one 24-word quote.
I am afraid to let go of things because I love them and am grateful for them. I don’t want something else to come along and take their place.
You see, this leaves room for disappointment.
Change.
So now we ask, why do things need to change? Can’t our lives just stay the same forever?
Well, maybe in a fairytale they can. You know, the whole ‘marry a prince and live happily ever after’ spiel.
No matter how hard we try, people will come in and out of our lives.
In reality, change is inevitable, along with endings. In fact, the two typically go hand-in-hand.
Someone you’ve been close friends with since freshman year changes, and you slowly drift apart.
The boyfriend or girlfriend you’ve dated for over a year breaks up with you, and you are devastated.
A close family member passes away unexpectedly, and you know your life will never be the same without them.
In all of these cases, something loved is lost.
But looking at it in a different way, aren’t new things beginning? After each one of these things, life goes on.
“…another door opens.”
Everything happens for a reason, right? Whether we consider change to be positive or negative in our lives, there’s a reason behind it.
Rather than dwelling on the past and dreading endings and change, we should all take a step back for a second and realize that something new will come.
“If I told you that in 10 years your life would be exactly the same as it is now, you most likely would not be happy. In that case, why are you afraid of change?”
If nothing ever changed in our lives, we would never be able to experience and learn new things.
“This too shall pass.”
It’s often hard to see, but after every single ending is a new beginning.
And, if we’re lucky enough, we may end up with something greater than we ever could have imagined.